Stick #74
PoorAsking about The whole situation · one of the deck's most cautionary signs
The short answer
You're in one of those frustrating phases where people around you don't understand your vision.
Reviewed 2026-06-08
Full readingStick No. 74
朱買臣分妻
Asking about The whole situation · one of the deck's most cautionary signs
The short answer
You're in one of those frustrating phases where people around you don't understand your vision.
Reviewed 2026-06-08
Full readingOnce a poor scholar was so wretched and devoid of wealth.
His wife deserted him and left him by himself.
Then he became known and was honoured by the imperial throne.
Deeply regretted, his wife was too ashamed to go home.
This tells the story of Zhu Maichen, a Han dynasty scholar who spent his days chopping firewood and studying ancient texts. His wife couldn't bear their poverty and constantly nagged him to give up his books for practical work. When he refused, she divorced him and married a wealthier man.
Years later, Zhu passed the imperial examinations and became a high-ranking official. His ex-wife, realizing her mistake, begged to return. But as the Chinese saying goes, 'spilled water cannot be gathered up' — some decisions can't be undone.
The story became a cautionary tale about loyalty, patience, and the danger of judging people by temporary circumstances. It reflects the traditional Chinese belief that education and perseverance ultimately triumph over immediate material concerns.
You're in one of those frustrating phases where people around you don't understand your vision. Maybe friends think you're wasting time on a project that isn't paying off yet. Family members question your choices.
Partners wonder why you're not taking the 'practical' path everyone else recommends. This sign suggests you might be experiencing rejection or lack of support from people whose approval you value. Here's our take: the story isn't really about vindication or proving people wrong later.
It's about the cost of impatience and fair-weather relationships. Right now, you're discovering who truly supports you during difficult times versus who only shows up for the good parts. Some relationships in your life may be more transactional than you realized.
People are revealing their true priorities, and honestly, that's valuable information. The 'poor' grade doesn't mean you're doomed — it means you're in the uncomfortable but necessary process of separating authentic connections from superficial ones. This period is teaching you about your own resilience and helping you identify relationships worth preserving.
Stop trying to convince doubters and invest that energy in people who believe in you. Document your progress somewhere private — a journal, photos, whatever works — so you can see your own growth during tough moments. Most importantly, don't make major relationship decisions while you're struggling.
People's behavior during your low points tells you everything you need to know, but wait until you're in a stronger position before deciding whether to rebuild bridges or walk away permanently.