Stick #99
AverageAsking about Love · one of the deck's middle grade signs
The short answer
Your relationship is hitting a rough patch that feels completely out of your control.
Reviewed 2026-06-08
Full readingStick No. 99
韓文公遇雪
Asking about Love · one of the deck's middle grade signs
The short answer
Your relationship is hitting a rough patch that feels completely out of your control.
Reviewed 2026-06-08
Full readingBy the bridge my horse is impeded by snow.
On the bank the ferryman refuses to go.
Like fallen petals I ponder on my fate, Yet adversity can never change my way.
Han Yu, known as Han Wengong, was one of China's greatest poets and scholars during the Tang Dynasty (768-824 AD). As a government official, he famously opposed the emperor's obsession with Buddhism, writing a bold memorial criticizing the worship of a Buddha relic. His courage cost him dearly – the emperor banished him to Chaozhou, a remote southern region considered the edge of civilization at the time.
This sign captures a moment during his difficult journey into exile, when heavy snow blocked his path and even the ferryman wouldn't cross the river. Despite facing professional ruin and physical hardship, Han Yu maintained his principles. He eventually returned from exile and became revered as one of the Eight Great Prose Masters of the Tang and Song dynasties.
His story represents the struggle between staying true to your values and facing the immediate consequences of that choice.
Your relationship is hitting a rough patch that feels completely out of your control. Like Han Wengong stuck in the snow, external circumstances are blocking your romantic progress right now. Maybe family disapproves of your partner, work stress is consuming all your energy, or distance is keeping you apart.
The key insight here is that these obstacles aren't really about your relationship's core strength – they're temporary weather conditions. The poem's line about fallen petals suggests you might be dwelling too much on what's going wrong instead of focusing on what remains solid between you two. Han Yu's unwavering resolve is your model here.
This isn't the time for dramatic relationship decisions or trying to force breakthrough moments. Your partner might seem unavailable or distant, like that ferryman who won't cross the river, but it's circumstance talking, not rejection. If you're single, this sign suggests that romantic opportunities feel frozen right now.
People you're interested in seem unreachable or the timing keeps going wrong. The traditional interpretation mentions that marriage should wait – and honestly, that applies to any major relationship escalation right now. What matters is maintaining your authentic self through this stalled period.
Hold steady and don't compromise who you are just to make things easier. If your relationship is strained by external pressures, support each other through the storm rather than questioning the foundation. Keep communication open but don't push for resolution when the other person genuinely can't respond right now.
Focus on small, consistent gestures of care rather than grand romantic moves. For those dating, pause the active search and work on yourself – the right person will appear when conditions improve. This is a season for patience, not action.